August 10, 2020
  • 8:30 am Will the Bulletin Make Today Tomorrow?
  • 9:04 am Different Neighborhoods Warrant Rubber Bullets or Traffic Control For Protesters
  • 5:07 pm STAFF EDITORIAL: Even Socially Distant, We All Have to Work Together
  • 5:47 pm Transcript of CSUDH President Parham’s Coronavirus Announcement
  • 10:46 am Cal State Long Beach Suspends Face-to-Face Classes; CSUDH Discussing Contingency Plans
  • 5:26 pm Things Black People Should be Able to Get Away with This Month
  • 10:25 am Latinx Students Need a Place to Call Home
  • 2:35 pm Will Time Run Out Before Funds for PEGS? [UPDATED]
  • 5:18 pm Greatness Personified: Remembering Kobe Bryant
  • 8:41 am Year of the Rat? What’s That?
  • 6:20 am Artist Who Gave Life to Death and Inspired Countless Others Gets His Due at Dominguez Hills
  • 5:16 pm Why I’m Rooting for Dr. Cornel West
  • 5:00 pm Under Fire from the Feds, Vaping’s Future is Cloudy
  • 3:28 pm We’re Going to Need a Bigger Boat; Tsunami 3.0 Hits Campus, Enrollment Swells
  • 4:48 pm University Weathering a Wave of New Students
  • 9:21 pm The Bulletin’s Public Records Request Offers Springboard to Launch Gender Equity Discussion at CSUDH
  • 4:27 pm Black is the New Black: Raising the Capital on the “B” Word
  • 10:53 am Guns Up for Arrest: Student advocacy group pushes for CSU No Gun Zones–Including the Police
  • 4:09 pm Staff Editorial: Words on the First
  • 8:42 pm Carson Mayor Blasts Media, Landmark Libel Case in Keynote Address
  • 9:27 am Free Speech Week Calendar of Events Update
  • 6:02 am Food for Thought: 40% of Students are Food Insecure
  • 3:12 pm Academic Senate Rejects CSU GE Task Force & Report
  • 3:06 pm Work To Be Done
  • 5:56 pm ASI Elections: What You Need to Know
  • 8:02 pm CSUDH President Parham Announces Cancer Diagnosis
  • 9:47 am CSUDH Art Professor’s 20-Year Journey Results in First Local Showing of Film
  • 9:13 pm Free Speech or Free Hate area?
  • 9:08 pm CSUDH’s Best & Brightest Shine at Student Research Day
  • 9:05 pm Academic Senate Approves Gender Equity Task Force
  • 12:37 pm When Dr. Davis speaks, Toros Pay Close Attention
  • 3:38 pm Investing in the Future: Dr. Thomas A. Parham Reflects on the Past Eight Months and Contemplates​ the University’s Future
  • 3:24 pm Green Olive to Open By End of Feb; Starbucks Not Until Fall
  • 3:20 pm Gov. Newsom’s Proposed Budget Hailed for Extensive Funding Increases
  • 3:08 pm Out of the Classroom: Labor and Community Organizing Course Aims to Teach Students How to Organize for Social Justice
  • 2:54 pm The Other Route in Professional Sports
  • 9:02 am Hail to the New Chief, CSUDH President Thomas Parham
  • 3:36 pm Career Center Holds Major/Minor Fair
  • 5:34 pm After Unexpected Delay, Undocumented Becomes More Intimate Theatrical Production
  • 1:30 pm What to Expect When You’re Expecting New Buildings
  • 2:00 pm A Feeling That Can Be Described With One Word, Finally
  • 9:27 am Dash Wins a Cup, Possible Blueprint for New LA Franchise to Succeed
  • 10:41 am “We Asked for Orange Juice and Got a Glass of Tang:” CSUDH Faculty Sound Off on Alternative Ethnic Studies Requirement
  • 3:00 pm Task Force to Examine Anti-Blackness Primarily, but Not Exclusively
  • 8:00 am Late Pavon PK Eliminates Houston
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By Violeta Rocha, Staff Writer 

Two years ago, I did the dumping in November. People like to refer to this as “the turkey drop” or the cusp of what is commonly referred to as the breakup season. Some people like to dance around the holidays because they don’t want to ruin upcoming festivities with their significant other. Others like to pull the trigger and cut ties to finish the year alone, especially if they see no long-term commitment.

I still remember that particular day when I decided to break it off. He was sitting right across me, and all I wanted to do was stare at his hazy green eyes and run my fingers through his hair like he did when watching “Dragon Ball Z”; he was a man stuck in a boy’s body.

I wanted to break it off earlier, but I shrugged it off. Until I knew I had to draw the line. Breakups are never easy, and it doesn’t matter who calls it quits. I was wasting my time on someone’s potential instead of accepting them for who they were. I didn’t want to go into the new year with a lost soul.

According to a “Peak Break-Up Times” chart created by David McCandless and Lee Byron, we are entering the year’s second-highest break-up time, second only to spring break.

Byron said, “I think it has something to do with end-of-the-year reflections or thoughts of everyone heading home for the holidays.” Some people reflect and realize they don’t want to introduce their significant other to their families.

Many college students break up during the holidays, especially when they go back home for the holidays only to do the turkey drop dump and break it off with their high school sweethearts. College can be challenging as it is and trying to balance academics can put pressure. Between juggling multiple finals and trying to keep your sanity, worrying about your significant other should be the last thing on your mind. If the person is not right for you, it’s okay to end ties and move on with your life.

So, if you are going through a breakup during the holidays, make sure you are primarily taking care of yourself. It’s not the end of the world. I take it as a rebirth and taking the time to fall in love with yourself. So read that book you’ve always wanted to read or try that new kickboxing class you’ve always wanted to try, whatever you do just try to keep yourself sane. The last thing you want to do is to dig yourself into a deeper hole into trying to save something that was not meant for you.



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