September 25, 2020
  • 3:52 pm BREAKING NEWS: Classes for Spring to be Online, CSU Chancellor Announces
  • 9:39 am “Strikes” and Solidarity
  • 8:30 am March Into History: Just 5 in 1970, CSUDH Growth Shaped by Historic Event
  • 8:30 am Will the Bulletin Make Today Tomorrow?
  • 9:04 am Different Neighborhoods Warrant Rubber Bullets or Traffic Control For Protesters
  • 5:07 pm STAFF EDITORIAL: Even Socially Distant, We All Have to Work Together
  • 5:47 pm Transcript of CSUDH President Parham’s Coronavirus Announcement
  • 10:46 am Cal State Long Beach Suspends Face-to-Face Classes; CSUDH Discussing Contingency Plans
  • 5:26 pm Things Black People Should be Able to Get Away with This Month
  • 10:25 am Latinx Students Need a Place to Call Home
  • 2:35 pm Will Time Run Out Before Funds for PEGS? [UPDATED]
  • 5:18 pm Greatness Personified: Remembering Kobe Bryant
  • 8:41 am Year of the Rat? What’s That?
  • 6:20 am Artist Who Gave Life to Death and Inspired Countless Others Gets His Due at Dominguez Hills
  • 5:16 pm Why I’m Rooting for Dr. Cornel West
  • 5:00 pm Under Fire from the Feds, Vaping’s Future is Cloudy
  • 3:28 pm We’re Going to Need a Bigger Boat; Tsunami 3.0 Hits Campus, Enrollment Swells
  • 4:48 pm University Weathering a Wave of New Students
  • 9:21 pm The Bulletin’s Public Records Request Offers Springboard to Launch Gender Equity Discussion at CSUDH
  • 4:27 pm Black is the New Black: Raising the Capital on the “B” Word
  • 10:53 am Guns Up for Arrest: Student advocacy group pushes for CSU No Gun Zones–Including the Police
  • 4:09 pm Staff Editorial: Words on the First
  • 8:42 pm Carson Mayor Blasts Media, Landmark Libel Case in Keynote Address
  • 9:27 am Free Speech Week Calendar of Events Update
  • 6:02 am Food for Thought: 40% of Students are Food Insecure
  • 3:12 pm Academic Senate Rejects CSU GE Task Force & Report
  • 3:06 pm Work To Be Done
  • 5:56 pm ASI Elections: What You Need to Know
  • 8:02 pm CSUDH President Parham Announces Cancer Diagnosis
  • 9:47 am CSUDH Art Professor’s 20-Year Journey Results in First Local Showing of Film
  • 9:13 pm Free Speech or Free Hate area?
  • 9:08 pm CSUDH’s Best & Brightest Shine at Student Research Day
  • 9:05 pm Academic Senate Approves Gender Equity Task Force
  • 12:37 pm When Dr. Davis speaks, Toros Pay Close Attention
  • 3:38 pm Investing in the Future: Dr. Thomas A. Parham Reflects on the Past Eight Months and Contemplates​ the University’s Future
  • 3:24 pm Green Olive to Open By End of Feb; Starbucks Not Until Fall
  • 3:20 pm Gov. Newsom’s Proposed Budget Hailed for Extensive Funding Increases
  • 3:08 pm Out of the Classroom: Labor and Community Organizing Course Aims to Teach Students How to Organize for Social Justice
  • 2:54 pm The Other Route in Professional Sports
  • 9:02 am Hail to the New Chief, CSUDH President Thomas Parham
  • 3:36 pm Career Center Holds Major/Minor Fair
  • 5:34 pm After Unexpected Delay, Undocumented Becomes More Intimate Theatrical Production
  • 1:30 pm What to Expect When You’re Expecting New Buildings
  • 8:00 am Virtual Reality: Spring Semester to Be Online
  • 8:00 am MiFi for Those With no Wi-Fi
  • 7:46 am Pandemic Upside? Campus Never Been Cleaner
  • 4:19 pm Second Issue of YOUR Student Newspaper Live!
  • 1:05 pm Joseph I. Castro Is Picked As Next CSU Chancellor
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By Taylor Helmes, Assistant News Editor

After my first long-term relationship ended, I did what any average, single, millennial female on the rebound would do: I downloaded Tinder.

I had just moved to Orange County from Sacramento, started attending a new school, got a new job, and had a total of two friends in my new environment. To make myself feel better about downloading the not-so-cookie-cutter dating app, I told myself I was making friends and trying to expand my social circle. I wish I could say the same intentions were set by the dozen or so matches I met.

Until I met my current boyfriend, Spencer.

I am confident in saying that if it wasn’t for Tinder, I wouldn’t have met him.

After a few years at Kansas University, Spencer moved back to Long Beach where he was born and raised. He downloaded Tinder and went on a few dates before we matched. Those dates usually resulted in him calling it quits before the third date because he wasn’t able to find a connection with them.

The swipe was mutual between us, but he was the first to send a message saying, “How’s your Sunday Funday going?” After looking through his photos and social media, or lack thereof, I had to know more about him.

We planned to meet and had our first date later that week. Going into this particular date, I was unusually hopeful for a potential future with him. I was almost one-year post break-up, and in a mindset of wanting a partner to be share life experiences with– big or small.

He picked me up in his cherry-red Honda and we set out for the beach. We made it just in time to walk along the shoreline for a little while before sunset. Then we found a pizza place and had the whole restaurant to ourselves. After pizza, we found a spot that overlooked the ocean and continued to talk for hours.

Obviously, I gave him my number after the first date.

Spencer and I continued to go on a few dates. We went to museums, the Los Angeles Zoo, basketball and baseball games. We even binge-watched “Game of Thrones” within three weeks!

Unlike my previous relationships, we took things slow. And by slow I mean we waited 2 ½ months to make things official, and another two months to drop the “L-word.” Since then, we’ve continuously grown and learned new things from each other.

But that’s not to say there haven’t been fights or little bumps in the road. Miscommunication occurs, which is ironic since I emphasized in Communication Studies in community college.

Here we are, over two years later and still very much in love. But it’s not the infatuation type of love that causes you to not focus on anything else but your partner. He and I push each other to be the best versions of ourselves.



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